The Learning State: Help your child to stay calm and focused in school
Is your child finding it hard to concentrate in a big classroom with so many distractions?
Sian Goodspeed, founder of Flying Start Tuition – former primary school teacher, mum and NLP practitioner – shares a simple technique that can help your child to become more switched on and soak up information like a sponge.
(Also read Sian’s previous articles for Chiltern Chatter on NLP, here and anchoring, here)
The Learning State is a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) technique that involves heightening the senses in order to increase the ability to absorb, process and store information. When used in the classroom, it can help your child to concentrate for longer, regain focus from distractions and enhance thinking skills and memory. (It’s great for mums and dads too!)
No negative emotions
What’s fantastic about this state is that it is also an excellent technique for managing your child’s emotional state because when he or she is in the Learning State they can’t experience negative emotions. So, no tears or temper tantrums, just a calm, Zen-like state – marvellous!
People with stage fright often use the Learning State to feel less anxious during a performance, as do students before entering an exam. What’s more – the Learning State is a good way to go into a meditative state. People who perform martial arts make use of this technique to stay in a state of relaxed alertness during their competitions.
How to get your child into the Learning State (like guided meditation – but after a few times, even younger children should be able to do it themselves.) Getting them to take this exercise seriously may be hard at first, but persevere and explain how it will help them.
1. Let your child sit comfortably on a chair, feet planted firmly on the floor.
2. Ask your child to take a few deep breaths in and out through their nose.
3. Encourage him to ignore any mind ‘chatter.’ Just let their thoughts come and go without getting involved with them.
4. Loosening the jaw helps to relax the child.
5. Tell your child to look at a plain wall, a few metres in font of him or her and find a spot, just above eye level. Focus on that spot for 5-10 seconds.
6. Still looking at the spot, the child should relax his or her gaze and allow their eyes to defocus – becoming aware of their peripheral vision.
7. Encourage your child to become aware of any sounds around them and to notice the feeling of the chair underneath them and the feeling of their feet on the floor.
8. Now, while still looking ahead at the same spot, let the child stretch his or her hands out to each side and wiggle their fingers. They should notice the fingers moving. Let them see how far back they can move their hands whilst still being aware of the wiggling of the fingers.
9. Ask the child to become aware of the relaxation in his or her body and the stillness of his or her mind.
Well done. Your child is now in the Learning State!
Like to know more about how NLP can help your child’s learning? At Flying Start Tuition, we incorporate many NLP tools and techniques into our lessons and staff members are trained in the methods to ensure consistency across the company.
To find out more about our courses, contact us for a free assessment or trial lesson today.